At this point in your affair, you are still in stars-in-the-eyes, everything's-great mode. With your husband, I don't know how long you've been married, but the stars-in-the-eyes stage goes away. Its natural for it to do so. Marriage is hard work sometimes. New relationships are all sunshine and kittens. Before you do something you will regret down the road, stop and really think about what you're doing. You said your husband is abusive, well maybe you aught to divorce him. But don't do it thinking "I can be with my one true love!" because its not going to work out that way. With your husband out of the picture, your new man may very well get scared and run away now that you'd be available.