Dear Hobbypoet,
I held a grudge against my parents for y-e-a-r-s.... When I became a parent at the age of 40 the anger started to just go away. I guess the anger was tempered by empathy. I look back on it now with son grown up and parents deceased and I feel regret. My parents made some major boo boos in parenting which made all of us wrestle with immaturity, poor confidence and insecurity. My mother would get aggravated and say she was going to pack up and leave. She never did but you can imagine what that would do to a child's sense of security..... Sounds like you want to move on and forgive. I know it's hard but the one it's hardest on is you.