Thank you for your response. Yes, he is physically abusive to everyone, especially my children. He has been better in controlling it. We already had child services at our home.. twice. I did call the police once but decided not to press charges. We’ve been through a lot. Our latest thing is that we are discovering his autism diagnosis. It explains a lot. No one could possibly understand how lonely it is (emotionally) being married to this type of person. His control and anger are manifestations from the illness. I was afraid when I told him about the affair. For my life actually. But I knew I had to tell him, get rid of the affair, and come clean. He’s doing better controlling his aggression, and he’s agreed to medication management. Covid is just delaying everything.