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Originally Posted by BlueSkyGirl
Thank you for your response. Yes, he is physically abusive to everyone, especially my children. He has been better in controlling it. We already had child services at our home.. twice. I did call the police once but decided not to press charges. We’ve been through a lot. Our latest thing is that we are discovering his autism diagnosis. It explains a lot. No one could possibly understand how lonely it is (emotionally) being married to this type of person. His control and anger are manifestations from the illness. I was afraid when I told him about the affair. For my life actually. But I knew I had to tell him, get rid of the affair, and come clean. He’s doing better controlling his aggression, and he’s agreed to medication management. Covid is just delaying everything.
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You definitely describe a lot of chaos.
I am also puzzled as to why your description of your husband has changed drastically from your first post until now?
You describe a very unhealthy home life. This could be very damaging to your children. If your husband is away while working a lot of overtime, who is with the children when you are out investing in another relationship?
Why would a mother of young children keep her children in an abusive home life? Additionally, why would a mother of young children pursue yet another romantic relationship when there's a huge mess right in front of her that needs to be addressed?
Why would a woman who is deathly afraid of her husband's temper/abusive nature tell him about her affair when neither she nor her children are protected?
I agree, something is awry.
You can deem this some kind of a judgement of you if it helps you to escape your responsibilities to your children. I see it as more of a wake-up call.
From what you have told us, I simply must say:
You have a responsibility to protect your children.
It appears as though your judgement is impaired. This can occur for a number of reasons. The exact reasons can be sorted out later on. It's extremely important you make sure that you and your children are safe.
If your home life is as you have described, get help. Protect your children. Now.
Love and Prayers
