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Originally Posted by BirdDancer
Conflicts are already cropping up between my siblings and me in regards to my father. I know that it will become extra stressful, not that it isn't already stressful. I'll spare people here of the details. My sister is still doing the lion's portion of the work. I am preparing letters for our dad's upcoming neurologist and psychiatrist appointments. Oh how I hope my father won't refuse to go to these appointments!!!! They are so important!
My husband is under great stress, despite not getting laid off. Actually, he now thinks being laid off or taking the package would have been the better situation. Of course with this pandemic, that would have been difficult. I really hope that a vaccine is created and distributed asap. My husband and I will be first in line to receive it.
I have decided to stop talking to my psychiatrist about our potential future move to Europe. His input makes the situation only more difficult. I'll only talk to my therapist about it. My psychiatrist has volunteered to look over the write-up I'm creating for my dad's upcoming neurologist appointment. That's kind of him. He can certainly provide input on how best to structure it (and on some content) to be as effective and helpful as possible.
Believe me when I write that my siblings and I wished our dad's LTC insurance would have paid towards the assisted living. If they did, perhaps our dad would have just stayed there permanently. At this time, I don't think our father even wants to come home. Sadly, we'd rather he not, too. The reason LTC refused is because they use the alcohol abuse as an excuse. According to his policy, even mental illness would cause an exemption. So, basically his LTC regards these issues as the person's fault.
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Im sorry that there is conflict between you and your siblings.. But it always unlikely that 3 people can decide on help for a parent. Im glad you can have your Pdoc help you compose a letter, I think that will be a huge benefit.
Do you think its possible that as things calm down COVID wise that your husband may be able to take an early retirement??? So many companies have cut staff in half yet as always expect everyone to double , triple or even more the work load, So not fair but it happens alot even before this Plague.
That is crazy that the LTC wont pay because of Alcohol or mental illness.. Like WTH??? Can you check with a lawyer to see if anything can be done?
I hope things will calm down for you and your father can get squared away somehow.. Remember to take care of yourself during all this