I've been married a divorced 3x. The first was hard. The 2 was a blended family. It was hard, it was ultimately the demise of the 2nd marriage. The 3rd was a con. I'm catholic first husband cheated, than hit me. I was hurt and broken. Never wanted to be divorced. But i don't put up with **** either. 2nd husband abused my son and threatened his life, divorce 2. Didn't have a plan just reacted, went crazy, lost custody of kids been miserable basically ever since.