I do understand this but I don't really understand people doing these kinds of things late in life. When I was young and saw older folk having squabbles and feuds I always thought it was unbecoming. Either get along or don't. But why cause a war?


And that is really what I told this person when she started to attack me. I told her if she didn't want to be friends, fine, but why be so viscous?


I wrote to her and said she ought to be ashamed of herself! And that is how I feel.

I think she is a narcissist because one thing about her - and I only realized it late - was that she never apologized. In a long-time friendship things happen and apologies get exchanged. It's no big deal. I realized too late I was the only one ever apologizing.

No, she was a malignant narcissist, I am certain. They are the most toxic personality on earth next to sociopaths.