I'm sorry earthmama, I know this one all too well. I totally get what you are saying because we are in therapy not to be hurt again.

We've already been through that and more and when something like this happens, it throws everything off.

But try and remember the other connections you have made with him to help build that trust. Like you, it is very easy for me to say forget it, you ruined everything. It is a work in progress.

It is good though that he schedules his appts so he can't blame the office person like my T does. Returned calls? Nah...he never got the message, darn office person. Very passive-aggressive in my mind. At least your T acknowledges the mistake although the oops part I didn't like.

Sometimes it feels like they go out of their way to send the message that we are irrelevant but it can't be true right?

It isn't in your case, I'm sure of it. Talk to him and tell him how you are feeling. Hang in there.