Could you please explain or find links to help me understand splitting a bit more? When I was younger (16) the world was all black or white-- abortion is ALWAYS wrong or if someone talks about me behind my back they're EVIL AND NOT MY FRIEND, lol, but three years later I really only take stress to an extreme and think people hate me if they seem upset with me. Would that be splitting or no? Sorry, I don't 100% get the concept, I'd appreciate help.

Could someone be borderline and not care one way or the other about abandonment? Obviously no one wants friends to leave or whatever, but could someone who doesn't even think about being "abandoned" be diagnosed with BPD?

Thanks!