BlueSkyGirl, I really don't know what to say since I'm not a relationships counselor. Have you considered going to couples therapy? It seems like your issues have more to do with your relationship than any particular mental disorder, or if it does, I'd wonder if it is more relating to your husband's autism spectrum disorder, as you say he has. I saw you mentioned some level of abuse from him. That is a definite issue to be addressed. I don't believe most people with bipolar disorder are victims of spousal abuse. Certainly people with bipolar disorder do not tend to have their children abused more than the general public.