I feel you. I don’t know that I have any advice, but can share my experience. I once worked in Louisiana for a sure fire cocky narcissist. He was good technically, and loved fraternizing with the higher ups. He wouldn’t hesitate to embarrass you in public. I once saw him and his buddy walk up to a guy at work during lunch and take food off the guys plate and they laughed about it. And it’s not like he was consistently an @$$hole, but was all over the map. I’ve been working in industry for 30 years and this guy was by far the worst boss and worst human I have ever known.

So, I prayed...a lot. Something like this: Lord I pray you’d change his heart. Give him a reason to see the damage he’s doing. Let him use his power and talent constructively. Work a mighty work within him- if it is your will to do so. But if it is not your will that he change, please Lord CRUSH him with your wrath and free us from his tyranny.

Over 18 months I worked for this scum bag. When I finally shared my concerns (in confidence to HR or so I thought) my boss demoted me to another department (but pay and benefits stayed the same). Then, all at once in the summer of 2009, the place where I worked announced the facility was closing. Dude was transferred out of state and I found a job making 25% more in Tn with a top 10 company and a super, super culture.

Life’s just too short to live misery. I probably should have acted sooner, but the situation taught me a lesson. And by the way, I can’t prove it but I know in my heart prayer works. Maybe what you ask for doesn’t play out like you think it should, or exactly like you want it, but in my situation, I wound up WAY better off than I ever expected to.