I wonder why he supposedly made amends to her but not you?

If he did make amends to you, then he did it all wrong because he continues hurting you.

Also blaming alcohol is all bogus because if he isn’t drinking now, who is to blame for him carrying on with this person now?

He pretty much continues his affair because even if it’s not physical anymore (even that is unknown, how do you know?), it’s still emotional affair as he maintains the emotional connection

We can’t control other people and their actions. We can only control our own actions. You can’t make him stop what’s he doing. He might start hiding better but people do what they think they should do. He thinks he should carry on with this person

Now it’s your turn to think what you should do and that’s much more important because you are in control of your life