Yes. As well, my mother-in-law died suddenly after a short but severe illness. She refused treatment that would have prolonged her distress. So everyone was pretty traumatized. We can't forget that. I know that my ex was extremely distressed. So if her children were in charge of things...maybe they could have messed up on some things? I can forgive them.


When my Mom died it was after a very long illness. Everyone had a chance to say goodbye. Everyone was sad at her funeral but most everyone was very calm. I helped my Dad with all the funeral details even though I was the youngest child. I tend to be calm in a crisis.


So I think what happens leading up to one's death probably carries over into the funeral. Just a thought.