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Originally Posted by divine1966
They can. They aren’t required. They just wouldn’t sit 7 days straight like Orthodox Jews would. But of course they can attend. Especially the day of the funeral. If it’s in the house they shouldn’t bring some pork chops with them lol but they could absolutely come and pay respect. Most certainly they are to attend funeral. Anyone can.
In my 54 years of life and living in two continents and being immersed in different cultures including dealing with interfaith marriages and different denominations of Judaism I’ve never heard of a family excluding someone from a funeral and shiva of their own mother in law regardless of faith. Never. Never happens.
These are some hateful folks. Well they don’t want to be at your wedding. So that’s something. I hate them because they lie about my people’s tradition to arbitrarily exclude someone. Makes us look bad.
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Well, I don't know what to say. At the time of our wedding my ex and I were very much in love, had nice friends, and interesting jobs in a large cosmopolitan city. I suppose we lived more or less independently from family. We had friends from all cultures and backgrounds. When NO ONE on either side of our families wanted to attend our wedding it was truly an eye opener.
Looking back I think we were naive. We didn't understand. My Mom was already dead but I think she would have been shocked, too, as she was a very expansive person. It was what it was...a very small, intimate, special wedding among friends. We didn't have much money so one friend did my hair, another made our wedding cake. The best man donated the champagne, and a couple with a garden provided the after party.