I think you can’t escape huge external stressors especially when we get older.

My husband and I just realized recently that since we’ve met, there was one serious illness or death or other form of disaster in both sides of the family one after another non stop. Plus high stress jobs for both, his is also dangerous. And now when we thought it will quiet down, this pandemics hit. It’s like non stop. So I hear you on that.

But I think stressors from outside of your marriage can’t be avoided because we have no control over it, you can’t escape stressors, you’ll have it in every relationship because they are external, it’s just how you handle it together matters. Internal stressors like fights is a different story. Those you have control over

I hope situation with his parents gets under control. I understand. I am freaking out with my dad getting older and refusing to downsize, he insists on living alone in a large house. At some point it will be impossible. He is so stubborn too.