Thanks comrademoomoo there are a couple things I think are at play here. 1 he does not perceive me as taking the initiatives I need to take on getting a job (he sees me as well educated and employable but he has not looked for a job in 40 years). He also does not see me as taking the initiative with insurance because again, I am *smart* I*should* be able to figure it out... my attempts have not been successful and I don’t have resources to teach me. Sometimes having a high IQ and perceived as smart is a huge disadvantage because people assume that you are smart about everything or that understanding comes easy for you. T even made the mistake of “Justing” me the other day and had to be reminded that was no different than “shoulding “ on someone.
On the flip side the only thing he was limiting was face to face sessions. He did not suggest limiting emails or phone calls. Personally, I would feel inappropriate seeing him half as often and calling or emailing twice as often or more. An odd difference in values I guess?
I do find myself disappointed but again it his financial policy was clear from the beginning.

There is another T with similar skill sets not too far away that offers far more flexibility if I needed to make that choice, or just as support through this bump and then back to T for trauma work. And, I don’t know if T would go for it but there is another T in the building that is less expensive that might work for just support... I couldn’t ever do trauma work with that other T but they would be good support. The three of us have joked in the waiting area and I know my T and the other T from the same office have talked at least briefly of me (with my permission) as a consultation type thing.

But yeh, the money part sucks. My T’s being nieve about some things is a bit annoying too.