Also, H said about a month before the financial “difficulties “ started that “T has you convinced that he loves you and cares about you but as soon as you aren’t paying him all that will go away”... which is Hs jealousy but it does make me question where the money is going.
T has already told me that he recognized early on how significantly I bond with people I choose to allow into my life. T recognized that I am still in touch with teachers and such from 40 years ago and love them like family, but I will honor what ever boundaries they set. T has already committed to allowing some kind of connection for life... not therapy, not necessarily friendship but contact and connection... so I know the love and care won’t stop no matter what.