Oh wisewoman....your life sounds like mine! For some reason, my kids can turn things around and think it's my fault that they waited until the last minute to start a project. You think that after they graduate high school that all that is behind you...........wrong! All my son has to do is call and make me feel like he needs his momma and I drop everything to attend to him. Problem is, he doesn't even appreciate what I do!

I know this isn't much help, but I wanted you to know you're not alone! Also, re your pain.....I had trigeminal neuralgia that caused excruciating pain in my teeth. It usually affects just one side of your face and comes and goes. You might check into that. Good luck (((((hugs))))))