A complaint I have: I have gained 12-15 pounds since being with my husband. He's gained about the same amount of weight. He does not eat the healthiest foods; I prefer to eat healthy foods, but haven't been as much since I've met him.

I've expressed MANY MANY times (probably 20 times now) my need to be thin and how that is important to me. I've tried to diet MANY times while I've been with him. He encourages me instead to eat fattening foods and will literally twist my arm to eat fattening foods WHILE I AM TRYING TO DIET AND LOSE WEIGHT.

I honestly feel like he WANTS me to keep gaining weight and to be heavier than I wish to be so that I don't look or feel as good as I used to. EVERY time I am dieting, he encourages me to eat fat. I used to be beautiful, sexy and thin. And now I'm plump, not beautiful and not sexy.

I think he wants me fat so that I cannot be attractive to other men. When we've been out, he's always noticing other men starting at me (or they used to stare). Then when we're in bed, he'll hug me tight and say things like "mine", meaning he's claiming me as his.

I am really upset at how heavy I am now. I weigh 141 pounds and I am only 5'2"!!!!!! I just bought a realistic mirror last night, and am sickened by how fat I look. I've always been thin nearly my whole entire life.

And I am resentful of my husband for not helping me to lose weight like I keep expressing to him that I want and need. He does the opposite.

I am really upset over this. I have to try to lose this extra weight, and I have to fight him on NOT eating fattening foods.