If I’d get yelled at, that person gets their truth off their chest. I can ignore it or respond in some way.

The other option starts a toxic game. It’s too much effort for me to play it. I don’t have the patience for it.

I’d rather have a shouting match and get it over with than a game of wits that takes time. I find that more stressful, as I’d be ruminating over that vs the shouting is over quickly.