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YMIHere · May 25, 2020, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

I think you can pursue your dreams and make a difference. Many people do that. Not sure why you think others don’t do that. It’s common and not unusual.

How did the topic go from dating this guy to pursuing your dreams. Just like many other
People you can pursue your dream and be in a good relationship.

If this guy is a hard working and reliable and fully employed yet can’t afford the most basics like fixing a car or renting one, then he is not doing things right. Either lacks ambitions or spending money on something like perhaps substance addiction. Something just doesn’t add up with this guy especially since other men you pursued before were also deeply troubled. It never ended well and likely will not end well this time either. You can do better with help of a good therapist

I don’t believe anyone is offended. We are not the ones dating him. It’s just that we think you deserve better than this

I brought up the dreams thing b/c I could maybe see it becoming a bone of contention. I'm looking to do gig work so I can stay free to work on the nonprofit and I think he thinks I should have a real job. Meanwhile, he's very bright and I personally think he should have a better job than a supervisor in a warehouse, but it's stable so something he's not likely to leave. Also, I HAVE gotten into arguments with people about my goals because other people think I should be living my life some other way. My ex-husband wasn't supportive, for example. I have two friends who are accountants who think I should be building a stable life and a 401K, not putting myself into debt for school. That's why I brought that up.

And as far as the not having money - child support and an ex-wife who screwed your credit putting you tens of thousands of dollars into debt will do that. But I'm sure he's lying about that and really spent all the money on hookers and beer lol.