Well the summary of this is that you had one date with a guy and now you are posting on the Internet asking strangers If you should move in with him and pursue a relationship. That’s a very strange question. I am happily married but after first date all I knew that I wanted a second date, I’d not be asking strangers if I should move in with him or move to a different state for him. It’s not negative or positive. You cant expect people advice you to move in with a stranger regardless how wonderful you think he is after one date

There is nothing wrong in working for non profit or having a job that makes a difference. You can still get paid. I make a difference and so is my husband but we still have to pay bills. People have to eat and pay for the roof above their head.

Working isn’t optional. It’s a luxury not to work. Most people would be homeless and starve if they didn't work.

Somebody must be supporting you so you don’t have to work but most people don’t have that luxury. If you plan on someone else supporting you in old age then of course you don’t need 401k. Most people want to have nice fun life in retirement though, being able to travel and pursue hobbies and so on. If you plan on only living on SS, it’s fine, but if you don’t work, it won’t be much and your opportunities will be very limited. You can make a difference in life and still not depend on others neither now nor in old age

You choose your life and make your decisions. We have no idea how your relationship with this guy will play out. Maybe you’ll be the happiest. We can’t really make you decide on this.