Hm maybe I didn’t explain myself well. I think my wedding was just perfect. It was a lot of fun, it was just two of us eloping in a hilariously trashy town in a neighbor state with pot heads in a court room clapping to us. (Woman in elevator in court asked us if are from out of state, we asked how she knew and she said because we are dressed up -not white dress but still kind of festive and people in their town never dress up lol lol lol ).

We have absolutely hilarious memories of it. We didn’t want big wedding or getting people from out of town or out of a country (and they would have to travel again for month later for my nephew), we already had big weddings many years ago and we raised children and didn’t want to have big to do at 50. It was easy as that state requires no witnesses and no applications. You come as you are snd get married. We liked it!

We don’t care about second weddings, we put our money into going on a honeymoon right from there. Also my nephew had a huge wedding like right after us getting married and we fell it was wrong to steal the thunder.

I don’t think weddings matter. I mean it’s nice when you are young and start family but i won’t measure success of a marriage by success of a wedding. I’ve been to some lavish weddings and people were divorced in a year. I seriously think it doesn’t matter at all. Like no significance. It matters how you two live together after it.