He didn't joke about the hookers and beer. I did. I was being facetious since Divine said it should be a red flag that he doesn't know how to handle his money.

Did you miss the part where driving him to work every day was a joke? I explained that later in the thread and while I'm typing one response, people are responding at the same time and so I had previously missed a response or two and so maybe you missed the fact where I said that was a joke. It's not a dependency issue.

And nowhere did I say he wants me to move back IMMEDIATELY. He brought it up rather early - I can see THAT being a red flag for some, but he didn't say move in with me RIGHT NOW.

As far as the motivating him in life - is it bad to want someone to give you REASON to do what you do? When I had to go to a job I HATED every day, I did that because I needed that job to support my kid. HE was the motivation. So if having a woman around that you care about makes going into work more tolerable, that's a bad thing? I feel like you're all making it much more dysfunctional than it is.

I'll agree with your statement about saving and fixing. Totally agree. I have to do my work and he has to do his. But I happen to think he's helped me already by confronting me on things that I'm not paying attention to that I need to work on. I feel like he's acting like a therapist in that way. He makes an observation, I agree and he has offered solutions to change my behavior.

Before everyone puts a nefarious spin on that like he's trying to CONTROL me, the specific thing I'm talking about in this instance is the fact that I tend to talk over people sometimes. More likely when I haven't taken my Adderall, but I am that person who jumps in when you take a breath because you sparked something in my brain. He brought that to my attention that I'm talking over him. Or I'll ask a question, but then not exactly give him the opportunity to answer it before I go off on some tangent. Now, I'm being mindful to pause during the conversations.

Anyway, thanks to everyone for having my back.