There's no indication that he's suggesting you move in together in a year's time.. a more suitable time-frame of moving in with someone new.. at the bare minimum.

My understanding of your story is this. You're planning on visiting him this weekend.. have "great sex" .. and then decide if you're wanting to move forward with his plans on living together. After all, your son lives there, too, so why not? This guy is hot, funny, and "gets" you.

I feel you're putting too much confidence in a guy you DO NOT KNOW.

My advice.. date him. You clearly want to. This weekend you're making the trip over. Next weekend, have him do the 1200 mile drive. Will he? I'm not so sure.. maybe?

Don't rush. Get the facts. Listen to your intuition. Stop defending his actions and consider how his "funny" attitude will impact you over the course of a few months when the honeymoon phase wears off.

If you can't get straight answers NOW, do you think you'll get straight answers once you run into trouble?

Just date the guy. Don't assume he'll be your soulmate simply because you're sexually attracted to him and he's playing all the right cards for "you" (only). He's a stranger. Good luck.