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YMIHere · May 25, 2020, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by MsLady

There's no indication that he's suggesting you move in together in a year's time.. a more suitable time-frame of moving in with someone new.. at the bare minimum.

My understanding of your story is this. You're planning on visiting him this weekend.. have "great sex" .. and then decide if you're wanting to move forward with his plans on living together. After all, your son lives there, too, so why not? This guy is hot, funny, and "gets" you.

I feel you're putting too much confidence in a guy you DO NOT KNOW.

My advice.. date him. You clearly want to. This weekend you're making the trip over. Next weekend, have him do the 1200 mile drive. Will he? I'm not so sure.. maybe?

Don't rush. Get the facts. Listen to your intuition. Stop defending his actions and consider how his "funny" attitude will impact you over the course of a few months when the honeymoon phase wears off.

If you can't get straight answers NOW, do you think you'll get straight answers once you run into trouble?

Just date the guy. Don't assume he'll be your soulmate simply because you're sexually attracted to him and he's playing all the right cards for "you" (only). He's a stranger. Good luck.

I'm working on getting the facts and it's my intuition that has me defending him. I don't KNOW anything. I take on faith what he says is true. Actually that's not entirely true. At the beginning when he was blowing me off with everyone whispering in my ear at the time I started to think maybe he was married and BSing me. He's not. My profession has me very experienced in working with public records. I KNOW he's currently living with his mother and I know he's divorced. After her surgery and once the pandemic is over they will sell the house, get her into a 55+ type community and then he is free to go and move where he wants instead of driving 80 miles each way to work. So, I guess because I know he's been truthful on things I CAN verify, my intuition tells me he's being truthful on all else.