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Originally Posted by MsLady
This is also a controlling tactic.. to create uncertainty and confusion at every little thing. Keep this in mind. You shouldn't have to try and "figure things out" as much as you already have. There are times to be straight forward and honest, and times to joke around. Pay attention to what he's joking about.. what he's being vague or indirect about.
Believe me.. I'm with a "jokster". Six years in and still a lot of uncertainty. It's not funny. It's emotionally draining. It's a headache.. a heartache.. and you'll find yourself going NUTS just trying to fit the pieces together. You'll unlikely ever get all the pieces together.
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Those first highlighted bits make the beating I took here worth it lol. I've never had this experience of someone using uncertainty and confusion for control. I've been gaslighted. Had someone try to make me think that I didn't know what was going on when I did, but not what you're describing here. I'm going to try to pay attention to what he's joking about or what he's being vague or indirect about. More the vague and indirect because he jokes about EVERYTHING.
So now I'll ask you. If it's emotionally draining and a heartache, why are you six years in?
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