Yeah, and im a comedian. Seriously. As i once told a friend of mine, youre a doctor, im a comedian - dont tell ME you made a joke, i will tell YOU when you made a joke. Okay, it was one of those things i didnt think of til the next day, but still.

I still think you are um whats the word denigrating? What is it that we usually accuse men of doing to women? Like patting them on the head, there there, you made a joke. It was a hostile answer. My point is, NEITHER of you can deal with the INHERENT hostility in an intimate relationship. It's not for sissies. He says something hostile, you ignore his discomfort AND yours, and call it a joke.

If you had ACKNOWLEDGED his discomfort AND your misstep - yes, lacto is not ovo; how about yogurt? - i would feel better, IF he were then able to discuss it, or promise to discuss it. But if he just plain doesnt want to discuss his food with you because thats too intimate, then thats a potential red flag.

I may be too micro, but this is where im at. This is what i need to be clear, to be comfortable with someone. And no, they are not lining up, but SOME people get me.