(Please excuse me for any mistake in the post, I'm not a native speaker)

Hello Melbee,

as it's been already written by others, this seems to be not the easiest situation to manage
You need to set healthy boundaries for yourself but it must be difficult to do everything by your own... you should have support
Please be kind to yourself. You already tried to do what you could
He should take responsibility for his actions and if he's a narcisist unable to do it it's not your fault... he got to learn how to behave

Please feel okay to write here if you need it