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Originally Posted by Aviza
Remember the vows you took, I didn't and I've lived to regret it. For better for worse. You agreed in front of God and family. Now get help, get him help. He won't want it at first. Maybe get the courts to order the help. Therefore get the police involved. Divorce does not solve the problem and all these people are too quick to throw away marriage. You have twins, they need both parents. It's better your there to supervise how he treats them rather than send them off for visitation.
I let people talk me out of marriage. I regret it. My life is unhappy. My exes have all moved on. Don't get divorced, work on solving the problems, one step at a time. You vowed to stay, once you break that vow it's broken forever. Don't get divorced. No one cares why no one cares why your divorced they just see a woman who gave up, didn't try, won't try. You'll be miserable raising twins alone. Try and fix things. Try.
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He has beaten and hit her and you advise her to stay when she is physically being harmed and beaten??????? What planet do you live on? NO vow of marriage means STAYING when you are in harm's way and when one person is beating another. For better or for worse certainly does NOT mean stay, even if you are being beaten up and harmed! Seriously. I am incredulous that this is even being suggested!
Physical violence does not just stop on its own, or with her pleading with him to stop. He needs serious help, and even then, there may not be any chance of permanent change. She needs to leave ASAP. Physical violence also statistically worsens over time!
So, the next time he beats her, kicks her and she's bleeding, bruised and cannot walk, are you going to tell her to stay because she took a vow that claims "for better or for worse???"
Come on.
Please do
not listen to this nonsense OP. Please get yourself to safety.