Things have steadily gotten worse over the last several years. He has never been there for me when I needed him the most and that still hurts. He doesn't take an interest in anything, other than the kid's sports, which is ending. He is also controlling in money matters and tries to make me feel like I would never make it without him. We have never communicated well and the fewer words said, the happier he is. It's sad really to have been with someone all these years and to never have felt cherished....such a long time, with so little love........sigh...I know this post is whiny. But thanks CMS, for your post....