I have had T’s that have said things similar to what you are saying and yes, it bothered me. IMO, you have no right, T or not, to label my experience. Current T is more likely to say something like “it makes me sad to hear that you had to go through that” or “I’m angry that situation wasn’t handled differently for you”. He states HIS feeling about it and then gives me space to express mine. I don’t always experience events the way he would have had he been through the same thing.