FluffyPuppy, welcome to PC's bipolar forum! What you describe that you've gone through sounds absolutely horrible! I admire that you are able to recognize fully what you've been through and question your diagnosis, if you feel it is incorrect. I assume you've discussed all of this with a therapist and/or psychiatrist? If you feel that they are not hearing you sufficiently, I hope you will consider getting second opinions. It is crucial that we receive the right treatment for the right mental health issues.

I can't say that my family blames my bipolar disorder for my behavior that justifiably falls within understandable and reasonable ranges. I do feel free to express myself. However, I don't have the familial abuse history that you state you have. Actually, when it comes to my bipolar behavior, my family is less likely to recognize some bipolar symptoms as abnormal. But you are definitely not alone in your experience. I have read posts from several other people who state what you mention about bipolar disorder blamed for normal range emotional expressions.

Since I do not know your family, I can't know what motivates them in what they say or do. But I can't help but think blaming bipolar disorder isn't just another means they use to restrict you in some way.

I don't know how old you are, but it may benefit you to step away from those abusive people. Free yourself. The steps to do that, literally or figuratively would be something to discuss with a therapist that seems to listen to you carefully.