I feel conflicted. The one I see does say sympathetic things sometimes - she's not the type to go on and on about it all the time whenever we talk about abuse. On one hand, I think I would be somewhat disturbed if she never showed any sympathy because that is how people usually respond to that sort of thing (whether people are usually genuine or not is another story). So if she acted like she didn't give a flying ****, that would probably strike me as strange.

On the other hand, my history makes me suspicious of anything approaching kindness. A big part of me can't help but think of kindness as a prelude to abuse. And honestly, I sometimes have trouble identifying abuse if it's paired with what I perceive to be kindness, so that adds another layer of confusion.