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Originally Posted by divine1966
I wasn’t really talking about your husband. I was talking about you as it’s your house too and if illegal stuff happens in your house, YOU are liable.
It doesn’t really matter if your husband knows or cares. We can’t control other people, their thoughts or actions. We can only control ourselves. If you can’t or won’t do anything about the situation, then there is nothing to be done. You just have to live with it. Hopefully you can see a therapist and join Al Anon to help you through
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I have a hard time thinking about leaving or kicking him out, but I know people do leave their significant others for this type of stuff, and meanwhile others don’t care. I do care and would have to live with it, which is already what I’ve been doing for 20 years.
I don’t worry about myself being liable so much, because I am not doing the same and I am saying no and demanding it to stop.
I could kick my son out but he is working on moving out anyway.
My son is acting typical for his age, and I don’t blame him for taking advantage of the green light my husband gives him..it’s my husband who would have to change his ways and I guess he isn’t going to.
My husband is asleep at the wheel.
It was very difficult for me to start this thread and get this out. I almost had an anxiety attack at work today because of it. Like I said, I grew up with an alcoholic, and mentally ill father, and that was very traumatizing. I have come a long way from how weak and sick I used to be in this relationship. I’m not that way now, but I’m not sure what is there.
My husband has changed a lot, but still.
I really don’t know what to think right now.
Thank you, and everyone else for interacting with me. I needed support.
I just am having a hard time being honest about how I feel because I’ve been of a certain mindset for so long.