“I hate to admit this even to myself, but I will. I just wanted to get married”
^There is nothing at all wrong with this! I’m sure it’s a very common reason for many. It isn’t always that they met their soulmate they just couldn’t live without. For me, I found the best man who I wanted to start a life with. Honestly, it was a timing thing more than a ‘can’t live without you’ thing. And there was love just as there is love with you and your husband.

There are many annoying things mine does and I’m sure I also do. I don’t care about things. For example, I’ll just forever pick up his things where he leaves them and put them away. This doesn’t trigger me. It’s the few crazy-making things that need to be fixed or will lead to divorce or a living Hell

It doesn’t sound to me like you made a ‘bad choice’ with your husband. He sounds like a good man with some behaviors that are too triggering for you to live with. But he’s not a rapist or anything like that. From all the men I’ve ever known (friends’ husbands they’ve told me about too) they ALL have behaviors that are ranging from annoying to deal breaking.