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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I agree that yelling is abusive. I agree everyone deserves to be treated with respect. Also, I don’t know the severity he is yelling or the things he is saying. That doesn’t matter anyway, as I’m not judging. My only point on this is that in some relationships, his yelling may be handled by his partner differently. They may not care. They may yell right back. There are a lot of ways two people interact. I’m sorry for calling it triggering to you, but your reaction to it is very emotional, which is not off base (and we all support you in this! Not judging.)
Remember the man who opened a disgusting mouth to me? He completely expected me to take it. Maybe he had a prior gf who did take it. For me, he was done right then and there.
Anyway, I hope you can work out him learning to control his temper and mouth, and that happens right away.  |
Thanks, Tisha, for the support! Much appreciated!
And sure, perhaps some people don't
mind yelling and yell back -- but by use of the word "triggered", I think perhaps you're projecting your own reactions to your husband's toxic behaviors in your marriage onto my situation and marriage? You get triggered by your husband, and that's how you describe it.
I am not going to put up with abuse. Period. And yes, it's very abusive what he does and says to me when he goes into a fit of rage. You should hear him! He uses many different types of abuse tactics when this happens. I'm well educated on abuse and abuse tactics, and he uses several on me.
So, yeah, while it may "trigger" my PTSD (naturally) because he's being abusive and also yelling at me -- ultimately, it's him who is abusive. It's not that he triggers me. That would make it seem like a problem of mine that I then need to resolve and fix for myself.
That's not the problem. The problem IS HIM. It's that he is point blank downright abusive when he gets like that, and I will not tolerate it one second longer.