I woke up again feeling like this relationship is hopeless.

My list of positives is longer than the list of negatives, but several of the negatives are absolute dealbreakers for me.

Right now, his physical ailments are really bothering me. He has so many physical ailments that I worry I will be taking care of an invalid, going far into. debt and not saving any money for retirement.

Now he needs new pillows because all of ours "suck", according to him. We bought TWO new pillows for him already, but neither works for his bad back. So now he needs new ones - yet another expense.

And the couch my sister gave us is not "good enough" for him, so at some point, I have to spend money on getting a new one for HIM -- for his bad back. I would be happy to keep the couch we have because to me, it's just fine. But no, we have to get. new one, and probably a more expensive one, because he hates it and it hurts his back. And it's going to be MY purchase because he cannot afford it. We already had to buy a $3000 bed to suit his back, so i am in debt for the bed. I am growing resentful.

I know... please don't say it. I know there's a mountain of problems I am facing just one year into marriage. It doesn't even need to be stated because I realize this and I am overwhelmed by it all as well as exhausted by it all mentally.

I had no idea until closer to the wedding the physical ailments he has. He was fine when we first met, but then as time went on, he started complaining more and. more about various issues.

He didn't tell me until long after the wedding, nearly a year later, that he has a "degenerative spine condition.". As soon as I found out, I asked "what does this mean for you?" And his knee jerk reaction was "are you going to divorce me now?" He didn't tell me about this before we got married.