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Old May 29, 2020, 09:42 AM
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Oh it’s very recent. Usually it clears out in about 7 years. So he filed bankruptcy after he met you? It’s weird he wants to keep buying expensive stuff and keeps owing money. Usually after bankruptcy people are really scared of this kind of stuff.

Good for you putting your foot down. Be strong
Thanks, Divine.

He resents that his family lost millions of dollars which he would have inherited. He resents not making a ton of money himself and feels he does not measure up to his father or brothers in terms of wealth and success.

So he wants to live his life as though he is still wealthy and as though he still has the means. He used to live a very wealthy lifestyle til the age of 32, and even beyond, because his ex wife made tons of money. He has expensive tastes, as do I, and he enjoys the finer things in life, as do I. But I know how to budget and am frugal; he is not.

This is what I grapple with. He is slowly learning how to be better and has improved over the last year with my help. But it's a source of contention for me and it's a struggle getting him to come around to see my viewpoint.
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