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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I experience the push/pull in relationships. It's one of the reasons why I don't have a lot of people in my life. In therapy, I have first learned to recognize the push/pull. Once I'm aware of it, I do my best to not act on either. I wait to see if the situation will change. Usually it does, and the desire to push/pull lessens. I've also learned to "tell on myself" especially to my therapist. I literally tell her that I feel clingy or that I want to push her away. We can then figure out why I feel that way, validate my feelings, and try to resolve the problem. Because the desire to push/pull usually is caused by a problem or a tape/template.
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Hey Scarlet,
Thank you, I'm also gonna try out if waiting to see if the situation changes will help. Do you mean that in terms of seconds or minutes i.e. in a conversation? That's how I interpreted it.
The telling part I'm also doing with my therapist, though only the pushing away part - interesting, I'm gonna try it with the pulling part too. I've never actually given the whole pulling part that much thought now that I think of it.
I'm not sure yet what you mean by a tape/template, but I'll look it up. Thanks again for the help and good luck also with this issue!