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Originally Posted by SoAn
Hey Scarlet,
Thank you, I'm also gonna try out if waiting to see if the situation changes will help. Do you mean that in terms of seconds or minutes i.e. in a conversation? That's how I interpreted it.
The telling part I'm also doing with my therapist, though only the pushing away part - interesting, I'm gonna try it with the pulling part too. I've never actually given the whole pulling part that much thought now that I think of it.
I'm not sure yet what you mean by a tape/template, but I'll look it up. Thanks again for the help and good luck also with this issue!
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For waiting for the situation to change, I didn't mean in a conversation. Here's an example: your T tells you something that frustrated you. You go home and decide you want to quit therapy. Instead of calling up your T and canceling, you wait for your emotions and thoughts to calm down. Usually once time passes, your urge to push away calms down. If it doesn't, you tell your T you want to push them away.
Tapes/templates are words, phrases, even pictures that replay in your head. It can be "I'm bad", "No one wants me", "Everyone abandons me", "I'm a burden", etc.