Hi lechedeluna. Welcome to psychcentral.

I am sorry you are going through this. I can imagine how scary and painful it must be. I've been on both sides of the equation here. When I was a young adukt my mother had a sudden manic episode and kicked me out of her life after many dangerous, out of character and seemingly unloving choices. As an adult, I experienced an onset of mania that rocked my family pretty hard. It isn't exactly the same, but I have great empathy for your situation.

You mentioned he switched over to herbal supplements. Did he suddenly stop his psyc meds and switch to the supplements all at the same time? Psyc meds cause changes in the brain that can leave someone incredibly imbalanced if they stop suddenly. In most cases it is recommended that patients wean off their meds slowly over weeks or even months. It has been shown in many cases that sudden withdrawal can cause mania, psychosis, or severe depression. Also, supplements have only been shown to have marginal effects and are typically taken alongside other forms of therapy.

Your fiance seems to be displaying signs of mania and possibly psychosis. He is delusional and I can say from firsthand experience that when someone is truly delusional it is very difficult to reason with them. This is especially true in a case where the individual isn't in therapy or seeing a doctor who can assist in being a neutral party to help challenge the beliefs. Does he have a friend he trusts that could intervene and help serve as a mirror? Sometimes a patient doesn't want to listen to a partner, but a friend will have success. Maybe even a parent or sibling?

I am glad you drew the line at what he posted on your FB page. You are correct that it is possible this is all just the mania talking, but regardless, it is important you not allow him to abuse you.

I agree with BirdDancer that it is possible he wishes to end things with you anyway, but I doubt he would want to do it this way. It seems unlikely though because it sounds like he bailed because he took your choice to remove his post as a rejection. Someone who is experiencing mania can also have a lot of paranoia going on and rejection on any level causes things to flare up in these cases. It certainly did for my mother. She would only listen to people who were 'on her side'.

You mentioned he has children? Are they young? I am concerned for their safety. If he is truly manic he is in no position to parent them alone and the fear you feel while with him is certainly going to be there for them. If there is anything you can do to assist with that side of things it is worth considering even if you are afraid of the outcome. On the one hand it may noy be your place to interfere, but if they are young they will have no idea to help themselves and they may be in danger.

Mania can last for days, weeks or longer and no amount of herbal supplements is going to balance it out. It is a truly destructive force and usually requires professional intervention. I understand wanting to give him time. If you do speak with him try not to get too emotionally wrapped up in what he says. Assume it could be truthful, but plan to validate it later when he is well again if you want to wait it out and give him that option. If he is in a better place, he should definitely see his doctor. He should let them know he went off his meds and what happened. Some individuals can cope without meds, but it is best to begin that process while under a doctor's care.

Hang in there and I am hopeful things will work out ok. I know he hurt you deeply, but it seems like you truly want what is best for him even if you aren't together. That kind of love and support is crucial. I think it is wonderful you reached out for insight and support. I remember feeling helpless when I was in similar shoes. I hope things work out in a way you can be happy with in the long run.