You’ve made some recent posts that really paint the picture.

I hear you saying you love him. That’s very important.

I feel a lot of his bad behavior is tied to his upbringing. Lived at home until 32! Throwing tantrums in a store when he doesn’t get the pricey thing he wants! Raging, yelling at you which makes you cave in to get him off your back.

My children knew to not dare cause a fuss in public if they wanted something and I said no. I’d have dragged them out of the store and they’d have not gotten it. You’ll have to do something to teach this spoiled baby to grow up. You can do it. Start by not giving in. Maybe a therapist can be a guide for you both and make this easier for you.

I echo everyone else who said speak to someone, a financial advisor is a good idea. You should be putting money away for YOUR retirement, and yes, if you stay married a long time, he would be entitled to some portion of it, too. But find out what’s best for you.

I’m glad you have a helpful lawyer sister!