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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
You’ve made some recent posts that really paint the picture.
I hear you saying you love him. That’s very important.
I feel a lot of his bad behavior is tied to his upbringing. Lived at home until 32! Throwing tantrums in a store when he doesn’t get the pricey thing he wants! Raging, yelling at you which makes you cave in to get him off your back.
My children knew to not dare cause a fuss in public if they wanted something and I said no. I’d have dragged them out of the store and they’d have not gotten it. You’ll have to do something to teach this spoiled baby to grow up. You can do it. Start by not giving in. Maybe a therapist can be a guide for you both and make this easier for you.
I echo everyone else who said speak to someone, a financial advisor is a good idea. You should be putting money away for YOUR retirement, and yes, if you stay married a long time, he would be entitled to some portion of it, too. But find out what’s best for you.
I’m glad you have a helpful lawyer sister!
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I do love him. But love certainly does not conquer all. That's for sure.
And thanks, Tisha. My sister was of a big help. And I will research divorce lawyers next week and will call a good one for a free consultation to get the info I need.
He did not live at home until the age of 32 though! lol. He lived apart from his parents since the age of 18, BUT they supported him financially until he was 32. They bought him expensive 40K sports cars, they paid for all his flights, his living expenses, and anything else he needed or wanted.
He was spoiled rotten and never learned a thing about being an adult. They did not do him any favors whatsoever and totally stunted his growth as an adult.
It's pathetic really and makes me most angry at them, because now I have to deal with a total spoiled brat who throws tantrums when I say "no". Unreal.
Like I've said above, it could just take one more incident and I am leaving. I may not have the patience for therapy with him, and there's a mountain of issues looming. My own therapist should be of help though in the meantime.
Of course, me being locked up inside during a pandemic does not help any.