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Originally Posted by MsLady
Leaving definitely takes time and planning. We have to be in a certain mental state where we "know" it's for the best. It's hard for sure, whether we have children or not. I really feel for you. As I've said already, don't act on anything right now with this covid19 affecting everyone. I hope things will get better for you, either way.
As for me, I'd say our relationship took a hit when I was pregnant with our second child who's one now. We've had many stretches of good times and when covid19 hit, it took a turn for the worst. So I get what you mean about the good times making it hard to end a relationship with someone we care about.
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Yes agreed. I want to be certain either way. My best friend is worried I will remain in limbo for years. I assured her that it won’t come to that. Though how can I predict how I will feel? She is also the friend who told me that I don’t love him enough to work through these issues. She clarified and said it’s not blind love on my part. So I clarified and said that it’s a matter of whether I am happy or not.. it’s not a measurement of my love. If I’m generally unhappy and that persists, I will have to end it. If I’m generally happy and once in a while there’s a bump I can deal with, then it’s likely I’ll stay.
No major decisions now.
And yes, I get where you’re coming from when it comes to good times. It does make it harder to leave. We all have our own personal limits, boundaries and dealbreakers though, so there’s that too.