As you probably know, I feel a lot of commonalities in our experiences with therapy, despite the many differences in the specifics of our situations.
For instance, I don't see your experience here
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. . .This is though rather common in Sweden as our mental health care system seldom offer proper help. Instead it locks people in and keeps them in a non profitable situation.
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as that different from what mine has been here in the US, despite the fact that I had private health insurance and could choose my own therapists, etc. I was depressed and couldn't work well and didn't have to work because I could scale back my lifestyle and live on what my late husband had left me. But I would have liked to find a way and place to go back to work, I would have liked not to be depressed and had the other issues I was dealing with.
No such luck!.
Recently I emailed my last therapist and the consultant, book author and trainer who referred me to her, and tried to make the point that therapy had failed me and I believed that the profession needed to acknowledge that more often and do more research into the issue.
I thought it likely I would not get a reply since it had been several years since I had seen them and they have no on-going relationship with me no.
The consultant did reply. The first reply seemed more "therapeutically" oriented toward me , that I had tried my best in all ways possible. That was not the issue I was trying to raise. I replied to her reply -- again, not necessarily expecting another reply from her. But I did get one, in which she seemed to acknowledge that therapy had not been helpful and she did not know what would have been more helpful.
That's not what their literature says very much. But it is what my experience has been. I feel it is in my best interest to accept the reality of what I have seen and heard, rather that what "should" be the case. Doesn't mean that therapy can't eventually come up with something that would have helped me or that people can refer you to there in Sweden. Just, for right now. . .it is what it is.
I guess you could say that I locked myself in an unprofitable situation and fruitless search. But the result is the same.
I also agree with what you wrote here:
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Within relationships with friends or a partner I agree you have to accept the other for who he/she is and not try to change the other person. But within health care, the counselor, therapist, doctor and so on should adapt to the patient. Itīs not in any way acceptable to be a patient for years without getting the help you need and then in the end itīs the patient whoīs expected to just accept things as they are.
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Unfortunately, if they don't HAVE therapy that could really help with what you need, how can they adapt?
Since they CAN"T help me, based on what I have found, I am left with the question of what (else) am I going to do about this situation? What CAN I do?
I would be very interested in what you think you need and would like to get from health care, if it were available. I think that's where care providers need to look more, in order to develop better ways to help people in the future. But they are not doing it.
So, just for my own curiosity, if you would like to answer, what do you think would help you? Not what you have read about therapy necessarily but from your own experience in life?