What are you saying? That I put up with his crap and he thinks he can get away with it because I haven't left yet? That is so far from the truth! I do NOT put up with it, I HAVE put my foot down NUMEROUS times over this issue, and I have threatened divorce EVERY SINGLE TIME. And the last time this happened, I told him this is NOT the marriage I signed up for, and IF it happens again, then we're going to have serious problems! It's not like I am lying down, accepting his behavior and allowing it to happen. I'm NO doormat, and that is not what is happening.

I hope you were talking more generally speaking, and not about my own relationship?

He does have ADHD as well, which I've read can cause explosive anger like this.

And I think it does happen at work, sometimes. I think he exploded in his last job on his boss.