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Originally Posted by divine1966
But that’s what I said if a partner doesn’t put up with this they leave. If you intend to leave then you aren’t going to be that partner. In your case if he keeps acting like this, you said you will leave. You aren’t going to stick around. In case of his ex they both treated each other bad.
Eventually he’ll either need to behave or find someone who’ll stick around and allow it, sadly some people do live like doormats their whole life so he’d either need to be alone or he’ll need to find someone who’ll stick around no matter how he behaves
Yes ADHD could make someone impulsive and it’s harder to control some impulses. But if he doesn’t behave at work like he does at home, then it tells you he can control his words and his behavior. If he couldn’t, he’d act like this at work and he’d not be able to keep a job
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Yes -- if he keeps it up, I will have to leave. I definitely am not putting up with this behavior for the rest of my life!!!! ARGH! I cannot even imagine.
I don't know (truly) how he behaves at work, because I am not there to observe him. But I have a
feeling he has exploded at work before (without getting fired). The way he told me that he spoke to his old boss insinuated that he may have lost his cool, when they greatly reduced his earning ability and changed the hours. But I wasn't there, so i cannot know for certain.
If he CAN control himself, then that's what I expect from him from now on. And if he cannot, I am packing my bags!
I don't understand how his ex wife put up with him for 14 years, allowing this kind of behavior. It must have been toxic on both sides. But that doesn't really matter too much to me. And you're right. If he cannot control himself, very few women will put up with it and he will find himself alone.