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Old Jun 03, 2020, 01:23 PM
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Originally Posted by MsLady View Post
My concern here is that you're accepting his behaviours by making false threats. If you're threatening divorce "every single time" then in his head, I bet he thinks you're just blowing off steam because you haven't divorced him yet.

If one were to have zero tolerance, as you've mentioned, they would have responded to these behaviours by leaving.

Don't get me wrong.. I completely understand where you're coming from and the internal struggles you're dealing with. I'm not at all judging you. I'm just looking at this from his angle. He's hearing empty threats "every time" there's an issue so to him, it means little... just 2 people having an argument.

I'm also not sure what "just one more time" means because you've been saying it throughout this thread. There's been new situations arising throughout but you're still present. It's confusing to me and undoubtedly holds no weight for him. Try and consider how your behaviours and threats mean to him.
@MsLady - Yeah, I do get it. But you must not have read through my whole thread to understand the whole picture.

I do see your point about the threats, but again, I don't think you've read all my replies in this thread. Perhaps they've been empty threats up until now. But now I truly mean business. And once again, there were 6 months where things were more or less great.
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Last edited by Have Hope; Jun 03, 2020 at 03:18 PM.