She sounds like my mom too, lol. I think that you're probably right about what you said. I doubt that she ever respected me. She is a geek girl she said and she places a high value on intellectual things. She knows all about my mental health issues, but she doesn't get them. She thinks that she could help me become more confident and help me to fit in by pressuring me to do things I hate and don't want to do like play hard strategy games in the group.
I think that she doesn't care about what I have to say unless it interests her in some way. She told me that she likes to redirect the conversation when she doesn't want to talk about something. She doesn't like to talk about stuff that she thinks is "unpleasant".
I tolerated her rude crap for to long. She even admitted that she lacks empathy. She told me that she didn't care about a necklace that she thought I lost and said it was just a necklace. Her other friends are intellectual types as well and I'm not as smart as they are. She probably thinks I'm stupid since I'm not as smart as she is, ugh. She sure treats me like I'm kind of stupid.
She was supportive of me at first most of the time. She did give some good advice at times. We did bond over our mistreatment of our former friend. I should've stopped staking her calls a long time ago.
She finally stopped calling me. I doubt that she actually has OCD or ADD as she'd start saying, sorry if I'm repeating myself before I could say anything. She stopped talking over me for awhile too. So she can control herself.
I think that she has issues with control and that she needs to be the center of attention, ugh. I'll keep on ignoring her most of the time now. Sadly, I think that she looks down on me for having mental health issues like most people do.
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Originally Posted by MsLady
She sounds a lot like my mother.
Anyway, I recently read about this. A person will not interrupt another they see as more superior (in whatever form). If she's doing it to you "only" could be that she feels more superiority over you.
My partner is like this. He's told me before that his mother's stories bug him because she adds a lot of details into her stories and he's heard them a hundred times. Yet, he will NOT INTERRUPT HER. (She's a great storyteller, btw). You wouldn't want her as your enemy. His best friend, too. He's of a higher financial and educational level than he is. He does not interrupt him, either. His brother/sister.. he's intimidated by, does not interrupt. Me? ALL THE TIME! He will finish my stories for me so he can move on to a different topic. He is very easily distracted. He's told me my stories are too long (wrong).. and that if he doesn't interrupt me, he'll "forget what he wanted to say" (on my expense). I could go on.
Point is, it's about dominance. Your "friend" contacts you because she feels empowered by you. She did not at all appreciate your boundary because it took some of her power away. In order for her to regain that, she bombarded you with "boundaries" of her own.
Bottom line? She isn't a true friend, nor does she respect you as one. I would just cut her outof your life.
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